Every leader has seen it. One person wants to move, another wants to map. Deadlines are tight, meetings drag, and both sides quietly think, “They just don’t get it.”
That tension isn’t personal. It’s behavioral.
It’s what happens when your team’s communication styles collide.
Urgency vs. Accuracy. Brevity vs. Depth. Results vs. Process.
When you understand that pattern, you stop fighting over pace and start managing alignment.
Most silos don’t come from hierarchy or distance. They come from mismatched listening styles.
Every team member filters messages through their wiring:
Green listens for process: “What’s the plan?”
Red listens for outcomes: “What’s the goal?”
Yellow listens for tone: “Who’s involved?”
Blue listens for context: “Why does this matter?”
Say the same sentence to all four, and you’ll get four interpretations. When one style dominates, others stop listening, not because they don’t care, but because they don’t hear what they need.
That’s how energy turns into miscommunication, and miscommunication turns into frustration.
The Green operations manager tightens up:
“Fast? We don’t even have the process defined.”
A Red-driven sales lead opens a project meeting:
“Let’s decide fast. We’re burning daylight.”
The Yellow marketing lead smooths it over:
“Hey, we’ll figure it out together.”
The Blue strategist folds their arms:
“We’re missing the point entirely.”
Each person is right from their perspective, but none feel heard.
Perspective |
What They See |
What It Means |
|
Green |
Speed = recklessness |
Anxiety |
|
Red |
Delay = indecision |
Frustration |
|
Yellow |
Tension = rejection |
Withdrawal |
|
Blue |
Shallow talk = lack of thought |
Disengagement |
The conversation becomes noise instead of movement.
When urgency wins, decisions happen fast but details fall through cracks.
Greens and Blues quietly disengage. You’ll hear:
“I didn’t know we decided that.”
“We missed a step.”
Speed feels good in the moment, but without structure, rework multiplies.
When structure wins, accuracy soars but progress stalls.
Reds lose interest, Yellows drift.
“We’ve been talking about this for weeks.”
“Why are we still planning instead of moving?”
Perfection becomes the enemy of progress.
Neither side is wrong. They’re just out of sync.
MyHardWired reveals how your team communicates in 3D:
When you can see all three, communication stops being guesswork. It becomes design.
Next time you lead a meeting:
Write one sentence you’ll change in your next meeting to match their wiring.
You’ve just learned how speed and detail clash. But that’s only one part of your team’s behavioral wiring.
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